Shifting Gears
I’ve been feeling a little shift in gears in my transition recently. Kind of like I’m settling into it a bit. Like when you hit cruising gear after accelerating for awhile. Or maybe it’s just 2nd or 3rd gear or something.
Once again this year Trixie and I attended a local transgender conference. The past two years we’ve only been able to be there for the weekend. We also were one of the couples on a panel discussion on TG relationships. This year it was just us and one other couple, a female to male (FTM) transsexual and his female partner. It was interesting to hear things from the other perspective, especially the shift in sexual identity within the couple. In some ways it was a reversal of what we are going through as a couple. Although Trixie and I both identify as pansexual/omnisexual so I don’t think our own sexual identities have really shifted much. The way we are perceived as a couple by society has shifted though from a hetero couple to lesbian, the exact opposite of what the other couple was going through.
I also attended a great little workshop while we were there on feminizing your voice with Kathe Perez. Kathe is a Speech-Language Pathologist who specializes in voice feminization. I did a one on one session with her too later in the day which was really cool. Nice to get some feedback and a few tips and pointers as well as some take home exercises. She has a CD series, Fundamentals of Your Feminine Voice, that I picked up while I was there also. I haven’t made my way through the whole set yet but it seems like it has some pretty good tips and exercises. I think it’s really going to help me focus on the the areas I need to improve in order to have a more natural feminine sounding voice. Eventually I would like my singing voice to have a feminine ring to it too. I haven’t been playing my guitar much lately because everytime I start to sing something my male voice comes through and it just sounds weird to me and freaks me out a little.
Speaking of things that are natural and feminine . . . my boobs seem to really be starting to shape up. This picture and the one up top are from my latest members update. There are some really beautiful shots in this set. We took them right around sunset so they have a nice warm glow to them 
I met a FTM at one of my local meetings and loved this young person to bits. I learned that it wasn’t any easier for a genetic girl to transition to male and we became fast friends.
About your voice, you’re your toughest critic, Delia. I’ve heard it several times and find it “unclockably” feminine but if you want to kick it up a notch, you’re the one who has to be satisfied with the way you sound.
I really dig the relationship you and Trixie share. My last LTR was with a genetic girl and went on for four years with her embracing my transition. We’re still friends and the gender issues had nothing to do with why we ended up in the friend zone. We were perhaps too controlling and too much alike to make it last longer.
Your boobs look lovely and hopefully you’ll know I’m not flirting LOL Mine are developing well and I know how wonderful it feels.
With love,
Cara